Crazy. Unhinged. Overemotional. Hormonal. Just plain nuts?

Anyone ever feel this way?? Anyone ever been called any of the above? I’m sure I’m not alone in saying YES to either of those questions.

Sad but true. And why you may ask yourself? It’s hormones is our answer much of the time. We say it sadly, with resignation, almost an anger. Why us we lament? It’s just part of being a woman some say while they shake their head sadly.

Well, I’m here to say – bullshit on that. Yes we have fluctuating hormones throughout the month – but they are a gift, a superpower. NOT a curse. And when managed properly, they bring us the vibrancy, the zest for life, the energy, the confidence, the beauty and the peace and happiness we seek. Unfortunately, we have been conditioned to view our hormones as something to be fought, to be subdued, to be controlled. In reality, our hormones are a gift. When we support them and work with them, we are unstoppable. When we understand them and nurture them, our hormones begin working for us, rather than being perceived as the enemy.

Each one of us has the power to take back the power and to get our hormones working in our favor. To get you started on this quest, here are the basic tenants that you should focus on:

1. Get your blood sugar under control

2. Nurture your adrenals

3. Support your organs of elimination

Each step should be done in order as they build upon each other.

Why is stable blood sugar important?
Unstable blood sugar is the most pervasive underlying cause of hornonal problems.
High blood sugar & low blood sugar both cause hormonal havoc within your body.
Your body works to keep itself level (in homeostasis). Your body sees mismanaged
blood sugar as a stressor. (Which is this step makes the second step easier).
When your blood sugars aren’t balanced it not only contributes to a host of illness,
disease, and weight gain – but it throws the communications with other hormones &
other endocrine system organs out of balance.
Remember: Blood sugar levels aren’t managed by accident!

Tips for Managing Blood Sugar:

  1. Eat at regular intervals throughout the day. Don’t skip meals!
    Choose the right foods – include protein and a healthy fat with each snack or
    meal
  2. Know how to course correct – for example when you’ve had too much, move your
    body to help use up the excess glucose floating around
  3. Don’t cut out carbs altogether! Your brain needs glucose for fuel. Eat complex
    carbs in proper portions
  4. Pay attention to how YOUR body responds to the foods and timing of what you
    are eating! When you notice – you can then respond

Your adrenals -the HPA axis (hypthalamic-pituitary-adrenal) – they matter!
The HPA axis is your body’s control center for your stress response (& all the
hormones associated – cortisol, adrenaline, norepinephrine etc.). Chronic stress (such as we often experience in today’s world) overworks and overloads this communication pathway. Leads to a hormonal mess going on within your body.
Adrenals also produce aldosterone (blood pressure regulation; electrolyte balance)
and DHEA (anti-aging hormone & precursor to estrogen and testosterone, boosts
libido & energy) among other important hormones.

Tips to support your adrenals:

  1. Balance blood sugar (see tips above)
  2. Improve your sleep and sleep patterns
  3. Move your body throughout the day
  4. Have an orgasm (it’s fun & your body gets a great cortisol flush to relieve stress)
  5. Create calming rituals or experiences for yourself around everyday stressors – for
    example while paying bills, driving, or working through that email pile at work
    put on some calming music, light a candle, get a delicious cup of comforting
    tea
  6. Meditate, Journal, Practice self-care daily
  7. Figure out stress management tools that work for you
    Tips

Support your organs of elimination!
Your liver, large intestine, lymphatic system and skin work day-in and day-out to
remove toxins and excess hormones (or “used up” hormones) out of your body. They
work to prevent a 20-car pile up from occurring that would create havoc in your
world.

The liver is responsible for processing and moving hormones along once they’ve done their job. The large intestine then takes those packages and moves them on out.

  1. Love your liver by eating good-quality proteins, lots of cruciferous veggies
  2. Help your large intestines by consuming plenty of soluble fiber

Your skin is your body’s largest organ and handles whatever your liver and large
intestine are unable to eliminate via sweating. Care for your skin!

  1. Occasional trips to steam rooms/saunas
  2. Alternate the water temp from warm to very cold a few times in your shower
  3. Exfoliate with a hot washcloth or sea-salt scrub
  4. Dry brush

Your lymphatic system (a network of organs, nodes, ducts and vessels which
produce and transport lymph a fluid made up of white blood cells) is a major
component of your immune system. It sweeps up metabolic waste, dead cells and
excess fluids and deposits them into the bloodstream where they make their way to
the liver. It also sends white blood cells where they need to go. Help it stay
unclogged by:

  1. Moving your body and exercising regularly
  2. Gentle massage
  3. Keep node dense areas toxin free (like your armpits) by using more natural care
    products

You have the power to takeback control – to have your hormones work FOR
you not against you. One small step at a time will create sustainable change that works for you in your everday busy life.

You’re worth it!

Looking for more? Try out these 2 amazing books:

  1. “WomanCode” by Alissa Vitti
  2. “Beyond the Pill” by Dr. Jolene Brighten

Time for a fall cleanup for your body, mind, and spirit

Fall is here in NE Ohio! It’s one of my favorite times of the year – the changing colors on the trees, the slight chill in the air, apple cider & cinnamon, pumpkins, Halloween…LOVE IT.

Now is the time for elderberry syrup making to shore up our immune systems for the coming cold/flu season. It’s also a great time to take stock, declutter and prep for the coming winter – not just your physical environment, but your physical body and your mental and emotional energy as well. This is a perfect time to cleanse and reset yourself. Start cleaning out those toxins to make room for more positive and fulfilling changes, foods, habits, actions and mindsets.

Our body’s naturally run through many elimination and detoxification processes on a daily basis – but these days we seem to be constantly overloading them. This applies to toxins in our physical body as well as all that “stuff” that clutters our minds and hearts.

Take this time to prioritize yourself and your well-being. What are you putting into your body? What are you exposing yourself to? The foods we eat, the products we use, the water in our homes, the air we breathe, the negativity we subject ourselves to…it all has an impact on us.

Perhaps its time to take one small step towards decluttering something unhealthy in your life. Choose an area – food, your mindset, your connection to others, and focus in. Take stock of what’s impacting that area now and choose one small way you can start to cleanse and reset. Maybe you want to nourish your body by including a healthy breakfast with protein, healthy fat and tons of veggies. Maybe you want to switch out a skincare product with something that is free of harmful toxins, maybe you want to try your hand at journaling or a daily gratitude practice. Maybe it’s just including something fun into each day.

The possibilities are endless. One way to start is to participate in a nourishing cleanse – one which supports your body’s natural detoxification processes and gives your body what it needs to cleanse safely. I will be running my semi-annual 10 Day Transformational Reset Cleanse Challenge beginning October 11, 2021. This already done for you 10 Day reset program (where you will receive the guide, meal plan, recipes and best practices) was designed by top holistic nutritionists at the Institute for Transformational Nutrition for busy people living their everday busy lives. It has been shown to help improve your overall digestive health, reduce inflammation, increase energy and reset your body systems.

Click below for more information! Get the accountability you need to kickstart yourself and finally prioritize you!

I want to learn more about the 10 Day Reset Cleanse Challenge!

Even if you don’t join the Challenge this time around – take action! Take stock and pick one small way you can support yourself – you’re worth it!

Get Over Your Mom Guilt – lives depend on it

Guilt – more specifically, the dreaded Mom Guilt.  It’s like that annoying cellulite that exists, we know it’s there, we see it, we feel it, we cover it up, we even joke about it. But it haunts us.

Ok, so that was a bit dramatic – but seriously – mom guilt sucks. In so many ways. For now, however, I want to specifically address how mom guilt is contributing to an unhealthy future for ourselves and our families.

Mom guilt causes us to put our children, our spouse or significant other, our families and even our friends over our own selves on the priority list.  In fact, often, we don’t even make it onto the priority list at all. (Wait a minute, you’re thinking – WE are SUPPOSED to be on the priority list???).

YES – we should be on the priority list, but instead, we mom’s trudge ahead each day, each week ensuring that our kids have fulfilling lives with what we deem to be appropriate activities, carting them around to their friends’ & their events. We make sure our families eat during the week, that their clothes are clean, that everyone wakes up and makes it to their respective locations timely. We ensure the house isn’t a garbage dump, we help with school projects, we make Target runs at 8pm for items needed the next day at school – essentially, we ensure everyone else’s lives are taken care of and functioning appropriately. Oh yeah, and don’t forget if you’re a working mom there’s that whole other job/career thing (no time to go into that right now ….).

Some of us even wear the guilt as a badge of honor (I am guilty of this by the way) – “Ohh, look at me and all the work I put in, all the things I do for you – never mind me, I’m fine – my life is fulfilling and I live to serve….” Hello martyr anyone? What is the cost of our martyrdom? What is the cost to our selves and our families down the road?

Well, if we don’t stop and jump off the guilt train, unfortunately the future is pretty bleak. Consistently putting others needs, others wants, and others priorities ahead of your own because you feel like you should, will only lead to overwhelm, anxiety, chronic stress, anger, frustration, feeling unappreciated, fatigued, uninterested in family time, lower libido, low self-esteem – I could keep going but I think you get the gist.

Let’s face it – being a mom is a lot of responsibility and a lot of work. And yes, it requires certain sacrifices to ensure that your children are happy and healthy and turn out to be (we hope) somewhat normal humans who contribute to this world and find their own dreams and live their own happiness. But recall – we mom’s also have our own dreams, our own lives, our own health and happiness to consider.  If we are burnt out shells of ourselves who constantly are running ourselves ragged and ignore the toll on our bodies and minds – we will not have done our jobs as mothers. We would have modeled extremely poor behaviors for our families. We would be too tired, too fat and too diseased as we grow older to enjoy our children and someday maybe our grandchildren. We would have lost our spark for living. How, I ask you, is that being a good mom?

I believe that part of being a good mom is showing your children the importance of taking care of yourself – body, mind and spirit. Modeling behaviors that you want to instill in your children is the best way to teach them. Taking time for your self-care, putting thought and practice into what goes into your body, making time for exercise and fun – all of these habits will:

  1. Keep you calm so that you don’t morph into the crazy, at your wits-end mom who freaks out on her kids (don’t pretend you don’t know what I’m talking about)
  2. Help you stay physically fit to keep up with your children and participate in activities with them over the years
  3. Help you feel better about yourself, happy, fulfilled and alive
  4. Help you look younger and grow old gracefully (by showing wrinkles and fat who’s boss)
  5. Help you want to stay connected and close to your partner and have a fulfilling sex life (this also helps you not become the crazy, rampaging mom I spoke about above)
  6. Help you live a long, healthy life and decrease or eliminate the chances that your children will have the burden of caring for you in their adult years
  7. Show your children that mom is important too and she is an actual person outside of the dirty laundry and messes she cleans up
  8. Provide for a positive family experience full of love and laughter

So – it’s time to give up the excuses, put the guilt behind you and start saying yes to YOU. Mom guilt is destructive and counter-productive to what we really want for our families. No more “because I should” or “because I have to” or “I’ll take care of me when I have time”. There is no one more important than you in your family – if you aren’t around to ground and center your family what would happen? I know I don’t want to know. I am now dedicated to catching myself falling into the guilt trap, stopping and redirecting myself. I am working hard at this because I want my girls to see positive examples of how they should take care of themselves and their families when they are older.

It’s a constant and conscious effort on my part – one that I have already felt the positive affects of.  Just ask my husband (who is not the subject of my crazy, tired, angry and irrational tirades any longer)!

Remember it’s not about PERFECT, it’s about HAPPY

#mindsetmonday – there is good

Amidst the chaos and tipsy turbulence world Covid19 threw us into; amidst the senseless violence and hatred that is yet again tearing its ugly head across our nation – remember – there is still good in this world. With hundreds of thousands of amazing human beings who give of themselves, who love and who provide peace, hope and stability.

There is more power in love than in fear and hate. how will you choose to be?

#mindsetmonday Shine On

It’s a beautiful sunny day today in Cleveland Ohio. The kids are online doing their lessons and I’m blessed to be able to be working while we are all at home.

The day, the week and this month will bring challenges – big and small. But together, as a family and as a larger community we will face them.

So today I choose to shine on. What will you choose today? Look outside, connect to something bigger than yourself and choose to shine your light.